Depravity can be an interesting thing to explore, depending on what you want from it, but it needs to happen in a sexually mature environment. Right now the modern world is still WAY too awkward about sexuality, which makes me very reluctant to pursue my 'Adventures of Sen' project, which can easily be seen as thoroughly depraved.
So yeah, I agree with you Miro, in that some of the problem lies with the artists ourselves. I have noticed on several occasions that some artists are kindof ashamed of what they do and are not really prepared to stand for it… which is a shame! They see it indeed as a depraved side of themselves that they sometimes explore but would instantly drop once confronted with questions about what they're doing. This doesn't help our cause at all. Erotica is our very nature, and its ridiculous to think that its shameful.
But I think its more of a general problem than just with artists. Even non-artists are still ashamed to be curious about erotica, even to masturbate or talk about sex, artists have just found an outlet that offers customization. The fact that erotica is more accessible than ever before shows that society is shedding its old-fashioned disdain for erotica and sex, but backlashes are inevitable when society still doesn't make a collective effort to give erotica a firm and unambiguous place in our daily lives. We've just released ourselves from centuries of sexual oppression but we haven't solidified it, and so when we hear news of predators and sex offenders, confusion arises, especially when the sensationalist media companies entirely misconstrue the situation. Thus porn gets the blame for something entirely unrelated!
And this whole association of porn having a bad influence on kids just confuses me. Sure, don't rub it in their faces, avoid it if you can, but not because its bad for them, but because kids don't give a shit about porn!!!!! Its only bad if you force it on them, as with just about anything else. Being abused sucks terribly and I wouldn't know what effect that has on you, but I had a very different experience as a kid. I remember when I was a kid I often came across my dad's porn stash but I seriously never found it even remotely interesting. For me that was just 'something adults do'. It was only when I hit puberty that I started to see its significance, and even then I was slow to clock on. And no I don't consider myself a sex maniac because I'm now an erotica artist. I was a geologist before, and compared to some of my friends and girlfriends I am prude! Interestingly, some of my friends who are awkward about porn have crappy relationships. Link? But seriously, even my kid nieces don't care about it. they know the deal, they had it in school, but they don't care... but if you want kids to be curious about something, then the best and most effective way is to be weird and awkward about it. Kids have a nose for those things.
And that's what I fear the most about all this anti-porn mentality these days, is that they might actually make it worse, because its banned, therefore interesting! Back in the 70s (?) Denmark legalized porn and immediately porn popularity dropped. Porn is a result of society, not the other way round. If you marginalize porn, you marginalize a big component of the human experience, therefore you create frustration and longing. Leave that unchecked, gods know where they'll go to find their gratification. And THIS is perhaps where you can start talking about sex offenders and predators. Criminals thrive in darkness and obscurity.
So, yeah, the world could use a good dose of growing up when it comes to sex. It would help a LOT, with many things. You can only make a shift from negative to positive about sexuality (thus also porn) if we're mature about it. That means, that we accept it and we're not scared / ashamed of it, that we are mentally clear about its meaning and purpose… or even if we don't exactly know its meaning in our lives, we can also be mature about our curiosity about it, and respect what it means (or doesn't mean) to others.
I think what will also help to make porn / erotica acceptable is to make more erotica that also includes other facets of life, like drinking tea, or going for a pee, or basically have it included in a proper story. Right now all porn is just focused on just sex. This obviously doesn't really inspire lovers of literature to engross themselves in porn, or any other lovers of any other artform. Right now porn is like van Gogh just painting Sunflowers, and nothing else but sunflowers... well perhaps shorter ones or taller ones... This is why I like 3DX so much (I'd rather call it CGI Erotica) is that you have the virtual world at your feet and you're not dependent on porn actors with the IQ of a plank, and therefore not dependent on just the same old porno format.